Written with: COMPASSION
for the man to be alone. I will make a
helper who is just right for him."
~ Genesis 2:18 NLT
Loneliness can be evident by its physical appearance or it can be hidden underneath one’s facade. It can be as quick as a fleeting thought or it can be one’s entire reality. No matter where and how long it exists, feeling secluded is never a welcomed emotion. In fact, solitary confinement is considered the cruelest of punishments. Why? Because no one wants to be or feel alone.
Mental aloneness can take root when we don’t feel regarded, accepted, understood, trusted, and/or loved. Its impact is damaging to our minds and faith as we believe we are the only people on Earth experiencing this disconnect. We tell ourselves no one else can possibly understand what we are going through. Our world becomes empty, dark, and dismal. And in this dark space, it is very hard to hear from anyone trying to give advice or reason with our reality. It leaves us feeling even more alone. So, what is the answer? How do we dig ourselves out from this bottomless pit?
Know You Are Not Alone
This statement may seem simple, but it makes all the difference in the world. Our minds need to know that our situations are not unique, and our problems can be resolved. God wants us to fellowship with both Him and other Christians to assure us we are not alone.
~Fellowship with Jesus~
Hebrews 4:15-16 says, “This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all the same testings we do, yet he did not sin. So, let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.”
When people say they can empathize with us, it means they truly understand what we are going through because they have been there. Jesus’ empathy is one of the many benefits we get from His walk on Earth. He experienced the same temptations and hardships we do and came out victorious. He grants us mercy and grace because He knows how hard it is. Who better to understand us than the One who can make a difference in our lives and give us the power (which exceeds all understanding – Philippians 4:7) to get through it all?!
~Fellowship with Christians~
“It is not good for the man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18).
God knew we not only needed a relationship with Him to get through life, but we would also need others to fellowship with. He understood the need for those who can strengthen and encourage us in our darkest times (1Thessalonians 5:11). There is no better feeling than having someone we can trust not to judge us. Someone who can relate to us. Those who can give practical advice because it has worked for them.
These two precious gifts can be our lifesavers if we let them. There is no question that when we are at our lowest, the last thing we want to do is connect with God and other people. But this is how the Enemy wants us to feel. He is well aware that the longer we are in that frame of mind, the longer we will stay in a hopeless, depressed, and lonely state.
We have the power to change this—one situation, one choice, one day at a time. Our emotions won’t make it easy, but if we press through despite how we feel, our desired outcome will catch up.
~Fellowshipping in Action~
From the list below, apply at least one action a day, even if you don’t feel up to it. Don’t worry if you don’t experience immediate results. These things take time. You want God to work this thing out of you, permanently!
- Talk to God daily about your struggles. He wants to hear them. (Matthew 11:28-30)
- Find scriptures relevant to your situation. And in a cozy spot in your home, meditate on them.
- Pray for your brokenness and thank God in advance for your healing. (Philippians 4:6-7)
- Read and reread Psalm 34:17-19.
- Talk to a trusted friend, family or church member about your battles.
- Ask a friend, family or church member to pray with and for you.
- Find a support group or forum where people are survivors of your stronghold.
- Tell yourself, it is okay not to have it all together and that God causes all things, both good and bad to work together for your good. (Romans 8:28)
- Remember that God loves you regardless of what is going on right now. (Romans 8:38-39)
- Look in the mirror and say, “I am not alone. I have God and His people to fellowship with.”
This list is not finite. We can always add to it. The important thing is to be intentional in getting back our sound minds. Knowing we are not alone gives us the courage to fight our bondage. To reach the place others are at and where God wants us to be.
Heavenly Father, we thank You for all that You have done and continue to do for us. Thank You for the fight we have in us to even say this prayer. Please, forgive us for any and all sins that have caused hindrances in our relationship with You. Please, help us all to know Your love and never forget it. Help us to know that no matter what we have done in our past, You are in the business of unfailing love and forgiveness. Help us to know we are not alone in this big, cruel world, but we have You and Your people. Your Word says, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” Help us to embrace this truth as we work through our afflictions.
In Jesus' Name. Amen.